Our Palm Springs Anniversary Trip

(Mural at the Ace Hotel and Swim Club but Laura Berger.)

Johnny and I recently celebrated our anniversary with a trip to Palm Springs. December is a busy month for us, so we rarely go "all out" with celebrating. This year I decided it was time to skip the overnight trip to Kansas City or St. Louis and go to where the sun would warm our faces.

We started the trip by missing our first afternoon/evening in PS because of flight delays. That part was tough. If you follow me on IG you probably know that Johnny has been dealing with a bulging disc in his lower back, so sleeping on the floor at the Denver airport was no bueno. We did make it through the night, though (obviously), and found ourselves in the warm sunshine a day later than expected.


We stayed at a quite little place called The Desert Star. It was precious and secluded, but still VERY close to the stuff we like do when visiting Palm Springs. We spent most of our first day recovering from lack of sleep, so it was a chill(y) day getting in the pool, napping, and sitting by the fire pit.


The next day we hit King's Highway for brunch and then headed the Cabazon Dinosaurs (my favorite!). We actually went specifically to the Ace Hotel to see the Laura Berger mural. I've been a fan of hers for a long time, so this was really fun to see in person!

After the dinos we did some shopping and sight seeing, and ate at Evzin for dinner. I don't have any pictures because I fully believe in finding the balance between being in the moment and having documented memories, but let me tell you- that was one of the best meals of my life. So, so good!


It was a short trip, but there's no one I'd rather spend it with. (And spend those long travel days with. 😉) We've been back for a week and a half and I still haven't unpacked, though. Why is unpacking simply the worst? Any crazy unpack-the-day-I-get-home folks out there? I (lovingly) think you're aliens. 😉

Weekend Getaways

Johnny and I had a rare weekend off from playing shows with the band this weekend, so we packed as much fun in as we could.  Friday night we had some wonderful friends over for pizza and game night.  Saturday, we spent every last moment we could out in the sunshine with the girls.  The weather was unseasonably warm and sunny, and was the perfect treat in the middle of winter here in the MidWest.  Johnny and I had the opportunity to get away on Sunday and part of Monday, so we dropped the girls with the grandparents and road tripped to St. Louis.  Here are some highlights.


My family is from St. Louis, so we know our way around pretty well.  We ate a TON of food (of course- that's what traveling is about!), did some shopping, went bowling, and just enjoyed not having anywhere to be for a couple of days.  I called this a "makeup anniversary trip" since we canceled ours in December due to hectic schedules, but the truth is, you shouldn't need an excuse to make time for weekend getaways or day dates.  One-on-one time is important.  Oh, and being able to have a conversation without interruption is priceless.  xo.

Marry Your Best Friend (And Other Cliches)

Last year I was sharing a bit about how Johnny and I were making more of an effort to go on dates, spend more one-on-one time hanging out (even at home), and basically just trying to do a better job of making time for each other in general.  As we got busier, we seemed to go on less dates and let life take over again.  Don't get me wrong, we work together and we are around each other constantly, so it's not as if we don't see each other, but it is important to set aside time for fun.  And we're bad at that.  Here, let me back up.

When Hope was a baby/growing up, we didn't know to nurture our relationship the way it needed.  We were so wrapped up in our amazing daughter, being a family, and making ends meet, that we didn't go on dates or trips or make time for each other.  It somehow felt like a selfish thing to leave our daughter with someone else and go goof off or whatever.  Trips were out of the question for us.  We once went to Chicago and back (around a 17 hour round trip) in a day to see a concert because we couldn't/wouldn't leave Hope overnight.  Yikes.  As you would expect, Hope got older and doing things together became a little easier.  We still weren't making time for each other like we should.

As we've gotten older and stayed married for more and more years, we've realized that being friends is, like, really important.  You don't want to make a life with a co-worker, you want to live your moments with your love and your best friend.  We get that a little better now.  I'm usually one to shy away from giving advice on topics that are so broad and couple/personality specific, but I thought I'd share some things that have worked for us over the years.

1. Marry Your Best Friend.  I mean, people say this all the time, but seriously.  Marry someone you like to hang out with.  Someone who makes your life better.

2. Pretend To Like Baseball Sometimes.  Okay, not specifically baseball, but whatever your significant other is into, be into it sometimes.  Do I want to hear about who's getting traded and who got injured in today's game ALL THE TIME?  No way.  But I make it a point to see a couple of games with Johnny each baseball season because I know he likes it.  Does he really care how many snap peas are on my plants today?  Possibly not, but indulging each other shows you care.

3. Hang Out Together In Groups.  It's great to have your couple time, but don't forget to have friends!  Some of our best times together are spent laughing with our friends over drinks or games.  It's important to have common friends.

4. Hang Out With Other People.  Go on dates.  Do that.  Hang out with your friends together.  Do that.  But don't forget to be a friend to your friends and let your significant other do the same.  Johnny and I are getting pretty good at setting aside time for our other friends.  It's important and healthy to have good friends outside of your marriage, too.

5. Do Fun Things Together.  Duh, right?  Really, though.  Go bowling together if you think that is fun.  Have some swim time or visit a brewery.  Whatever you guys like to do, do that.  Make time for the happy moments!

6. Don't Bicker.  Especially in front of people.  If you find this happening, try zipping it, saving it for later, and deciding whether it is worthy of a real conversation or whether you were just irritated or edgy at the time.  This has helped us a lot over the years.

7. View Personality Differences As Complimentary Character Traits.  I'm spendier and Johnny is more frugal.  I wear my emotions on my sleeve and Johnny is more like a sealed envelope.  I squeeze the toothpaste from the bottom and he still squeezes from the middle.  Things like this could be points of conflict (and still sometimes are), but we try to view our character differences as balancers.  Ways of helping bring each other back to the center.

8. Don't Forget That You Are Young.  Now you're older and you have a job and a family and so you're a real grown up, right?  SO WHAT.  You can still be silly and stupid and jump off balconies into pools (well, not me EVER) or play with weird Japanese dolls or thoroughly enjoy adult cartoons.  You are young until you aren't (Which I believe is never.  You are never not young.  Get that?)  Be fun, have fun.  Life is fun, guys.

We aren't perfect poster children for marriage-- we still struggle like everyone else, but somehow we will be celebrating 14 years of marriage this December and we still kinda like each other.  I guess that means we're doing okay.  :)

Will You Be My Valentine?

I asked this Valentine to brave the FREEZING COLD with me earlier this week, because it is so rare that we get pictures the two of us.  Sure, there are the every-once-in-a-while couple selfies, but I thought it would be nice to get a snap or two with the "real" camera.  Or, the "dad" camera, if you will.  (FOTC, anyone?)  Anyway, he obliged, so I popped that tripod right up and ran back and forth like a crazy person, trying to make it before the timer went off WITHOUT getting loads of snow in my shoes.  The things we do for pictures, huh?  I don't care.  These are precious and worth it and I'm happy we did.  Sidenote: must remember to order a remote...

Here are a few more snaps of this amazing dress (that I WILL be wearing again today on V-day) made by 23 Skidoo.  I love every single one of Courtney's dresses and I am so happy to finally own one of my very own!

Dress: 23 Skidoo;  Tights: ℅ ModCloth;  Shoes: NastyGal;  Heart Clip: Ban.do;  Clutch: Gift Shop Brooklyn

I hope you all have a really wonderful Valentines Day.  I hate that it's this weird, alienating day for a lot of people.  No matter who you are and where you are in life right now, I hope every single one of you has a day filled with people you love who love you back.